{"id":2621,"date":"2025-10-31T13:57:56","date_gmt":"2025-10-31T12:57:56","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/therapeutjeroen.be\/?p=2621"},"modified":"2025-10-31T14:47:02","modified_gmt":"2025-10-31T13:47:02","slug":"schaamte-de-pijn-van-gezien-worden-zoals-we-vrezen-te-zijn","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/therapeutjeroen.be\/nl\/schaamte-de-pijn-van-gezien-worden-zoals-we-vrezen-te-zijn\/","title":{"rendered":"Schaamte: de pijn van gezien worden zoals we vrezen te zijn"},"content":{"rendered":"<div data-elementor-type=\"wp-post\" data-elementor-id=\"2621\" class=\"elementor elementor-2621\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-816963e elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default wpr-particle-no wpr-jarallax-no wpr-parallax-no wpr-sticky-section-no wpr-column-slider-no wpr-equal-height-no\" data-id=\"816963e\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-70d24b5\" data-id=\"70d24b5\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-e966fb4 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"e966fb4\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p><strong>Schaamte<\/strong> is een van de meest stille, maar diep voelbare emoties. Ze kruipt onder je huid, fluistert dat er \u201ciets mis is met jou\u201d en laat je het liefst verdwijnen. Toch heeft schaamte een oorsprong, een functie \u00e9n een uitweg<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-09f3319 elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default wpr-particle-no wpr-jarallax-no wpr-parallax-no wpr-sticky-section-no wpr-column-slider-no wpr-equal-height-no\" data-id=\"09f3319\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-4f649b7\" data-id=\"4f649b7\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-285ec7f elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"285ec7f\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">Waar schaamte ontstaat<\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-faceb0c elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default wpr-particle-no wpr-jarallax-no wpr-parallax-no wpr-sticky-section-no wpr-column-slider-no wpr-equal-height-no\" data-id=\"faceb0c\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-b35075c\" data-id=\"b35075c\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-312514c elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"312514c\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>Schaamte vindt haar wortels vroeg in ons leven. Als kind leren we wat \u201caanvaardbaar\u201d is \u2014 via blikken, woorden of stilte. Wanneer we iets doen dat afwijzing oproept, ervaren we een pijnlijke spanning tussen wie we zijn en wat we denken dat we <em>zouden moeten zijn<\/em>.<br \/>Ook cultuur, religie en gezin spelen een rol: ze vormen onze ongeschreven regels over goed en fout, over \u201cwaardig\u201d zijn of niet.<\/p>\n<p><!-- \/wp:paragraph --><!-- wp:paragraph --><\/p>\n<p>Evolutionair gezien hielp schaamte ons om bij de groep te blijven \u2014 maar in de moderne wereld kan ze ons net isoleren.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-eb598ba elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default wpr-particle-no wpr-jarallax-no wpr-parallax-no wpr-sticky-section-no wpr-column-slider-no wpr-equal-height-no\" data-id=\"eb598ba\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-4c3d284\" data-id=\"4c3d284\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-c10db09 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"c10db09\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">Hoe schaamte wordt ervaren<\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-4c9aa5b elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default wpr-particle-no wpr-jarallax-no wpr-parallax-no wpr-sticky-section-no wpr-column-slider-no wpr-equal-height-no\" data-id=\"4c9aa5b\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-a6605ee\" data-id=\"a6605ee\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-2656345 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"2656345\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>Schaamte is vaak lichamelijk voelbaar: een brandend gezicht, neergeslagen ogen, spanning in borst of buik.<\/p>\n<p>In gedachten klinkt ze als:<\/p>\n<p><!-- \/wp:paragraph --><!-- wp:quote --><\/p>\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote\">\n<p><!-- wp:paragraph --><\/p>\n<p>\u201cIk ben niet goed genoeg.\u201d<br \/>\u201cAls ze dit van me weten, zullen ze me afwijzen.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-dd3babb elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"dd3babb\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>Ze maakt dat we ons terugtrekken, perfectionistisch worden, of net gaan pleasen \u2014 allemaal manieren om die innerlijke pijn te vermijden.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-f1afe48 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"f1afe48\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">Hoe je schaamte kan helen<\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-b461936 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"b461936\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p><!-- \/wp:heading --><!-- wp:paragraph --><\/p>\n<p>De paradox is dat schaamte, terwijl ze ons liefst laat verdwijnen, verdwijnt in het licht van <strong>verbinding<\/strong>.<\/p>\n<p><!-- \/wp:paragraph --><!-- wp:list --><\/p>\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li style=\"list-style-type: none;\">\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><!-- wp:list-item --><\/ul>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li style=\"list-style-type: none;\">\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><strong>Herken haar<\/strong>: merk op wanneer schaamte opduikt \u2014 vaak als stilte, spanning of defensie.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><!-- \/wp:list-item --><!-- wp:list-item --><\/p>\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li style=\"list-style-type: none;\">\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><strong>Normaliseer<\/strong>: iedereen kent schaamte; het hoort bij mens-zijn.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><!-- \/wp:list-item --><!-- wp:list-item --><\/p>\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li style=\"list-style-type: none;\">\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><strong>Praat erover<\/strong>: deel wat je voelt met iemand die empathisch luistert. Schaamte verliest kracht als ze woorden krijgt.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><!-- \/wp:list-item --><!-- wp:list-item --><\/p>\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li style=\"list-style-type: none;\">\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><strong>Oefen zelfcompassie<\/strong>: behandel jezelf zoals je een vriend zou behandelen.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><!-- \/wp:list-item --><!-- wp:list-item --><\/p>\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li style=\"list-style-type: none;\">\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><strong>Onderzoek de bron<\/strong>: welke overtuiging zegt dat jij \u201cniet genoeg\u201d bent? En van wie komt die eigenlijk?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><!-- \/wp:list-item --><\/p>\n<p><!-- \/wp:list --><!-- wp:paragraph --><\/p>\n<p>Schaamte wil je niet kapotmaken \u2014 ze wil gezien worden.<br \/>Pas wanneer je haar durft aan te kijken, opent ze de weg naar echtheid, mildheid en verbinding \u2014 met jezelf en met anderen.<\/p>\n<p><!-- \/wp:paragraph --><!-- wp:quote --><\/p>\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote\">\n<p><!-- wp:paragraph --><\/p>\n<p>Wil je aan jouw schaamte werken, ondersteund door een professional? <a title=\"Jouw intake\" href=\"https:\/\/therapeutjeroen.be\/nl\/jouw-intake\/\">Boek hier meteen je intakegesprek<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>Wil je liever eerst kennismaken en\/of heb je nog een vraag? <a title=\"gratis kennismakingsgesprek\" href=\"https:\/\/therapeutjeroen.be\/nl\/kennismaking\/\">Boek hier een vrijblijvend verkenningsgesprek.<\/a><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p><!-- \/wp:paragraph --><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-524c7ea elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default wpr-particle-no wpr-jarallax-no wpr-parallax-no wpr-sticky-section-no wpr-column-slider-no wpr-equal-height-no\" data-id=\"524c7ea\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-ad71f41\" data-id=\"ad71f41\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-63f3f8e elementor-widget elementor-widget-html\" data-id=\"63f3f8e\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"html.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<blockquote class=\"instagram-media\" data-instgrm-captioned data-instgrm-permalink=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/p\/DQE1Zk0De6V\/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading\" data-instgrm-version=\"14\" style=\" background:#FFF; 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font-size:14px; line-height:17px; margin-bottom:0; margin-top:8px; overflow:hidden; padding:8px 0 7px; text-align:center; text-overflow:ellipsis; white-space:nowrap;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/p\/DQE1Zk0De6V\/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading\" style=\" color:#c9c8cd; font-family:Arial,sans-serif; font-size:14px; font-style:normal; font-weight:normal; line-height:17px; text-decoration:none;\" target=\"_blank\">Een bericht gedeeld door Jeroen Walravens (@therapeutjeroen)<\/a><\/p><\/div><\/blockquote>\r\n<script async src=\"\/\/www.instagram.com\/embed.js\"><\/script>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Schaamte is een van de meest stille, maar diep voelbare emoties. Ze kruipt onder je huid, fluistert dat er \u201ciets mis is met jou\u201d en laat je het liefst verdwijnen. Toch heeft schaamte een oorsprong, een functie \u00e9n een uitweg Waar schaamte ontstaat Schaamte vindt haar wortels vroeg in ons leven. Als kind leren we wat \u201caanvaardbaar\u201d is \u2014 via blikken, woorden of stilte. Wanneer we iets doen dat afwijzing oproept, ervaren we een pijnlijke spanning tussen wie we zijn en wat we denken dat we zouden moeten zijn.Ook cultuur, religie en gezin spelen een rol: ze vormen onze ongeschreven regels over goed en fout, over \u201cwaardig\u201d zijn of niet. Evolutionair gezien hielp schaamte ons om bij de groep te blijven \u2014 maar in de moderne wereld kan ze ons net isoleren. Hoe schaamte wordt ervaren Schaamte is vaak lichamelijk voelbaar: een brandend gezicht, neergeslagen ogen, spanning in borst of buik. In gedachten klinkt ze als: \u201cIk ben niet goed genoeg.\u201d\u201cAls ze dit van me weten, zullen ze me afwijzen.\u201d Ze maakt dat we ons terugtrekken, perfectionistisch worden, of net gaan pleasen \u2014 allemaal manieren om die innerlijke pijn te vermijden. Hoe je schaamte kan helen De paradox is dat schaamte, terwijl ze ons liefst laat verdwijnen, verdwijnt in het licht van verbinding. Herken haar: merk op wanneer schaamte opduikt \u2014 vaak als stilte, spanning of defensie. Normaliseer: iedereen kent schaamte; het hoort bij mens-zijn. Praat erover: deel wat je voelt met iemand die empathisch luistert. Schaamte verliest kracht als ze woorden krijgt. Oefen zelfcompassie: behandel jezelf zoals je een vriend zou behandelen. Onderzoek de bron: welke overtuiging zegt dat jij \u201cniet genoeg\u201d bent? En van wie komt die eigenlijk? Schaamte wil je niet kapotmaken \u2014 ze wil gezien worden.Pas wanneer je haar durft aan te kijken, opent ze de weg naar echtheid, mildheid en verbinding \u2014 met jezelf en met anderen. Wil je aan jouw schaamte werken, ondersteund door een professional? Boek hier meteen je intakegesprek. Wil je liever eerst kennismaken en\/of heb je nog een vraag? Boek hier een vrijblijvend verkenningsgesprek. Dit bericht op Instagram bekijken Een bericht gedeeld door Jeroen Walravens 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